analyse my dream

[Gem]

Last night I had a really disturbing dream and I am hoping that someone could try and work out its meaning. I dream't of my parents both deceased (my father just over a year ago). My mother had been badly beaten by father. I was really angry and threatened to call the police but my mum kept telling me not to. I then saw my dad kick a foot ball into the path of a passing car again I'm telling him off.

I find myself in some wilderness with a strange guy who wants me to stay with him he tells me that he is in some kind of danger and that he needs me to stay with him or he will be killed. I'm unsure half wanting to stay but I don't completely trust him either feeling that he is going to hurt me. At the last minute I start running and I know in this instant that something bad would have happened if I had stayed. As I am running I find a childs doll and I note that its hair has recently been brushed. I don't recognise the doll but some how I know that it belongs to my daughter. I notice that the doll is wearing glasses and one of the lenses is smashed.

There are some other toys scattered on the way which I pick up. I don't know how I get out of this strange wilderness but I emerge from under my sister's childhood bed.

I hope someone can add some insight to this dream usually when I dream of my mum she looks really well and only very ocassionally worried but never beaten up.

[Marnok]

Your parents are telling you that they know, if there was ever anything you could've done to genuinely help them, they trust that you would've done it. You prove this by offering to call the police, and by protecting your father from possible injury on the road. So if you have been holding on to the thought, "if only I had...", they are telling you it would'nt have made any difference.

The second part is an affirmation of life. You have faced the death of loved ones, and must be considering your own mortality. By facing danger, the dream shows you that you have a will to survive and live your life. The stranger is not as important to you as your parents; you could've stayed and protected him from the dangers, but it was a trap, and you saw past your need to help people to save yourself.

I think perhaps you felt you could've done more to help your parents, perhaps there was even something you think you could've done to save them from death? This dream says, it's OK, you did enough. It warns you against transferring that need to "save" people to others. Trying to save strangers means sacrificing yourself.

The trail of toys leading to a place of safety under the sister's bed - this shows that family is your salvation, though it may be that you feel your sister views you poorly (for not helping parents enough?) as it seems you have become the boogeyman under her bed! Has she been saying "someone should have helped parents", vilifying some imaginary beast who took parents away, and you have subconsiously placed yourself in that position?

The smashed lens means someone has not been looking at things the right way, looking at the world through broken glasses. I suspect the doll was You, as it "belongs to your daughter" now more than ever that you don't have your parents to belong to. You didn't recognise the doll, so perhaps you have not been acting yourself in your daughter's eyes? Perhaps you need to explain why. Maybe she is wondering if she will lose her parents, too.

[Gem]

Thank you so much for your thoughtful reply to my post. I really could not work this dream out. Usually I have a clue at what a dream maybe about but this particular dream had so many different elements. I could identify with your comments on my need to save others. That I could have done more for my mother when she was alive - yes I have my regrets. Not sure about me being the bogyman under my sisters bed - as I felt this was more like an exit portal from one world to the next. The toys did not lead me there I just kind of appeared there. But having said that me and my sister are not close - Do not think she blames me for my parents might have a beef about other things.

I have a good relationship with my daughter so usually have an idea whats on her mind so cannot relate your comments concerning her relationship with me at this stage. But The glasses the doll was wearing were my daughter's. Sorry I left this out. I gave her a quartz crystal to take to school for protection as this really worried me. As I write I feel the beaten women represented me. Is it the future - Am I going to be hurt physically by a male? Finally my mum did not live to be old and she appeared older in the dream. As I write I feel strongly now that this is an event yet to pass.

[Gem]

An after thought just came to me - you said that perhaps I was behaving differently in my daughters eyes. My daughter recently started secondary school and I have noticed that she has changed. Perhaps the doll represents this change - her new identity.

[Marnok]

Is it the future - Am I going to be hurt physically by a male?

Don't surrender things like this to pre-ordained destiny. This is something you can control. Unless you feel there is someone in your life right now, who this might be warning you about - it's not precognitive, it's symbolic. If there is someone you think might hurt you, don't tolerate it or wait for it to happen. Make yourself safe right now.